“Who is this book for?”

Narcissist! Or Not? is for men who’ve been labeled a narcissist by their partner, or those struggling with relational challenges that may be leading to accusations of narcissism. It’s designed to help men understand these behaviors and provide practical steps to foster better communication, emotional connection, and personal growth in relationships.

“Do I need to be diagnosed with narcissism to benefit from this book?”

No. This book isn’t about diagnosing narcissism. It’s for any man whose behaviors might have led to disconnection in his relationship. Even if you haven’t been labeled a narcissist, you’ll gain insights into better understanding yourself and how to improve your relationship.

“Will this book help if my partner has already left?”

While this book focuses on relational growth within an active relationship, the self-awareness and emotional maturity it teaches can be incredibly valuable, whether you’re currently in a relationship or seeking to understand what went wrong in a past one.

“What makes this book different from other relationship books?”

This book is specifically designed for men navigating accusations of narcissism and focuses on personal ownership, emotional resilience, and relational growth. It offers practical strategies you can apply immediately, without overwhelming you with psychological jargon.

“Will this book help me prove I’m not a narcissist to my partner?”

This book isn’t about proving or disproving the label. Instead, it focuses on helping you understand the behaviors that may have led to the accusation, and how you can grow, become emotionally resilient, and create a deeper connection with your partner. The goal is to shift from defending yourself to taking personal ownership.

“I’ve tried to change, but nothing works. How is this book different?”

We’ve worked with hundreds of men who felt stuck and frustrated, just like you. The difference is that this book focuses on inner transformation—moving away from trying to fix external problems and toward personal ownership and emotional growth. It’s about changing the way you approach challenges, not just tackling them head-on.

“What if my partner isn’t interested in changing?”

While your partner’s behavior might play a role in the dynamics of your relationship, the focus of this book is on what you can do to change the patterns that aren’t working. We’ve found that when men step into personal ownership and emotional maturity, relationships often improve naturally. This book empowers you to take control of your side of the relationship.

“I’m not much of a reader—will this book be too complicated?”

No. This book is written in a straightforward, relatable style. It’s packed with practical advice and real-world examples that make it easy to apply the principles to your life. You don’t need to be an expert to understand or benefit from it.

“What if I don’t enjoy reading or I’m not good at it?”

No problem! If reading isn’t your favorite way to learn, we recommend purchasing the PDF version of the book directly from our website. Once you have it, you can use tools like text-to-speech apps or built-in features on your phone, tablet, or computer to have the content read to you. This way, you can listen to the book just like an audiobook, making it easier to absorb the information while on the go or during your daily routine. There are several tools and services that can read PDFs aloud to someone. Here are some popular options:

1. Natural Reader

• • Type: App and Online Service
  • Description: Natural Reader offers both a free and premium version. It allows you to upload PDFs, and it will convert the text into speech with natural-sounding voices. It also offers a mobile app for listening on the go.
  • Website: Natural Reader

2. Adobe Acrobat Reader (Free Version)

• • Type: Desktop App
  • Description: Adobe Acrobat Reader includes a Read Aloud feature that will read PDF documents to you. It’s simple to use and integrated within the PDF viewer.
  • How to Use: Open your PDF in Adobe Acrobat Reader, then go to View > Read Out Loud > Activate Read Out Loud. You can choose to have it read the entire document or just the current page.

3. Microsoft Edge (Built-in PDF Reader)

• • Type: Web Browser
  • Description: Microsoft Edge’s built-in PDF viewer has a Read Aloud feature. Simply open the PDF in Edge, right-click, and select “Read Aloud.” It’s a convenient option for those who already use Microsoft Edge as their web browser.

4. Voice Dream Reader

• • Type: Mobile App (iOS and Android)
  • Description: Voice Dream Reader is a highly customizable app that can read PDF files and other documents aloud. It offers different voices and speeds and is known for its accessibility features.
  • Website: Voice Dream Reader

5. Google Text-to-Speech (for Android Devices)

• • Type: Built-in Feature for Android
  • Description: On Android devices, you can use Google’s Text-to-Speech feature. You’ll need to download a PDF reader app (such as Google Play Books) that supports text-to-speech.
  • How to Use: Open the PDF in the app, and use the Text-to-Speech accessibility feature to read the content aloud.

6. Apple’s VoiceOver (for iOS and Mac)

• • Type: Built-in Accessibility Feature for iOS and Mac
  • Description: Apple devices come with VoiceOver, a screen reader that can read PDFs and other documents aloud. It’s part of Apple’s suite of accessibility tools.
  • How to Use: On a Mac, open the PDF and use the VoiceOver feature from the Accessibility settings. On iOS devices, you can activate Speak Screen by swiping down with two fingers from the top of the screen.

 

Who is this course for?

“Narcissist! Or Not?” is for men who’ve been labeled a narcissist by their partner, or those struggling with defensiveness, emotional withdrawal, or insecurity in their relationship. It’s designed to help you understand the behaviors that may have led to these accusations and provide practical steps to improve communication, rebuild emotional connection, and foster personal growth.

Do I need to be diagnosed with narcissism to benefit from this course?

No. This course isn’t about diagnosing you with narcissism. It’s for men experiencing relationship struggles that have led to disconnection, defensiveness, or accusations of narcissism. Whether or not you’ve been formally labeled, this course helps you gain insights into your behavior and improve your relationships.

Will this course help if my partner has already left or is influenced by her friends and family?

Even if your partner has left or is being influenced by others, this course focuses on self-awareness, emotional maturity, and personal responsibility. These tools are invaluable whether you’re working to repair a current relationship or trying to understand what went wrong. Many men find that personal growth leads to positive changes in the relationship dynamic, even if their partner seems resistant at first.

How can this course help if Dr. Ramani’s perspective has made me feel like it’s too late?

While Dr. Ramani offers insightful perspectives on narcissism, they can sometimes leave men feeling hopeless. This course takes a more hopeful, action-oriented approach. We believe that change is possible when you commit to doing the work. You’ll learn practical tools to rebuild trust, improve emotional communication, and reconnect with your partner—showing that it’s not too late to make lasting changes.

What does the course and community include?

The “Narcissist! Or Not?” course offers video lessons, interactive activities, and assessments alongside access to a supportive community of men. You’ll be able to engage with others going through similar experiences and receive feedback from Sven Masterson and Steve Horsmon during live Q&A sessions.

Do I need to have read the book to take the course?

No, reading the book isn’t required, but it can deepen your understanding. The course stands on its own, offering an immersive experience that builds on the book’s principles. However, the book serves as a valuable companion for those looking to dive even deeper into the material.

What if my partner isn’t willing to take the course or work on the relationship?

This course is about your growth and doesn’t require your partner’s participation. Many men find that when they focus on personal responsibility and emotional maturity, it creates positive shifts in the relationship—even if their partner isn’t initially engaged. The key is to focus on what you can control—your own behaviors—and let the results naturally follow.

How long does the course take to complete?

The course is self-paced, allowing you to move through it on your own schedule. Depending on your level of engagement, it can take a few weeks to a few months to complete. You’ll have ongoing access to the material for as long as you subscribe, so there’s no rush.

Can my partner take the course with me?

While this course is specifically designed for men, we offer a partner’s edition of the course tailored for women. Both versions are private, allowing each partner to grow individually. Your partner won’t see your progress, and you won’t see hers, giving you both the space you need for personal growth. [Click here to access the partner’s version.]

What if I don’t think I have enough time for the course?

You likely have more time than you think! This course is self-paced, so you can engage with the content whenever it fits into your day—even if it’s just 30 minutes here and there. You’ll have access to the content as long as you’re subscribed, so you can work through it without feeling rushed. As Sven and Steve like to joke: If you have time to scroll through your phone on the toilet, you have time for this course.

I’ve tried to change, but nothing works. How is this course different?

We’ve worked with hundreds of men who felt stuck, just like you. This course focuses on inner transformation—not just fixing external problems. By helping you shift your mindset and grow emotional maturity, it gives you the tools to approach challenges in a completely new way. The focus is on long-lasting change, not quick fixes.

Is the course suitable for men in all stages of their relationship?

Yes, the course is designed to help men at any stage of their relationship—whether you’re in a solid partnership looking to improve or facing significant challenges. The lessons on emotional maturity, communication, and self-awareness are applicable regardless of the specific situation.

Can I get personalized feedback during the course?

Yes, there are opportunities for personalized feedback during live Q&A sessions and office hours. While Sven and Steve may not be able to respond to every individual request, the course leaders and community are available to provide valuable feedback, helping you stay on track.

Will taking this course fix my relationship?

The course is designed to help you transform yourself—your relationship’s improvement will be a result of the personal growth you achieve. This isn’t a quick fix, but if your relationship does improve, it will be because you’ve taken ownership of your actions and become the man who can lead your relationship in a healthier direction.

How do I know if this course is right for me?

If you’ve been labeled a narcissist or accused of being emotionally distant, defensive, or controlling, this course can help you. It’s designed for men who want to become more emotionally resilient, improve their relationships, and take control of their personal growth, regardless of the labels being used.

Can my partner see what I’m doing in the course?

No. The course is completely private, allowing you to work through your growth process on your own. Likewise, if your partner takes the partner’s version (coming soon!), you won’t see her progress either. This ensures that both of you can focus on your personal development without crossing boundaries.

What if my partner doesn’t want to change or doesn’t believe I can?

While your partner’s beliefs or behaviors might impact the relationship dynamic, the core of this course is about what you can control—your actions, your mindset, and your emotional growth. Even if your partner is resistant to change, we’ve seen time and again that when men step into personal responsibility and emotional maturity, their relationships naturally shift. This course empowers you to take control of your role in the relationship and build trust from the inside out.

I’m worried this course will be too complex for me. I’m not much of a reader or into psychology. Will I still benefit?

Absolutely. The course is designed to be straightforward and highly practical. We use real-world examples, easy-to-understand language, and step-by-step strategies that you can apply immediately to your life. You don’t need any prior expertise—just a willingness to reflect, learn, and put in the work to improve yourself and your relationship.

FAQs From Women with Partners Demonstrating Narcissistic Behavior:

Why would he listen to you if he won’t listen to me?

We understand how frustrating it is when your partner won’t listen to your concerns but might be more open to an outside perspective. Our approach speaks directly to men without putting them on the defensive. Often, hearing advice from other men who’ve experienced similar struggles can make a difference, helping them recognize behaviors that are damaging the relationship—without feeling blamed. It’s not about your voice being less important; it’s about hearing things from a neutral source that he may not feel emotionally threatened by.

I’ve told him the same things a thousand times. Why would this be different?

It’s painful to feel ignored, especially when you’ve been clear about the issues in the relationship. This course offers a different approach by helping men come to their own realizations through self-reflection and personal responsibility, rather than feeling attacked. The lessons are structured in a way that allows him to see the impact of his behavior without feeling cornered, which is often why this approach succeeds where direct confrontation may not.

What if he just uses this course to defend himself or manipulate me?

This course is designed to prevent defensiveness and manipulation, not encourage it. We focus on helping men recognize harmful patterns of behavior and teach them how to take ownership of their actions, rather than blaming others or trying to control the situation. There are no tactics in this course to manipulate you or “win you back” through deception. The goal is for men to become emotionally mature, not to fool their partner into thinking they’ve changed.

Why should I trust this course will work when he hasn’t listened to me?

We understand how painful it is to feel unheard. This course doesn’t aim to replace your voice, but rather gives your partner the tools to finally hear you. Our focus is on helping men understand how their defensiveness and emotional disconnection are contributing to the problem. Once they start taking responsibility for these behaviors, many men begin to listen in ways they hadn’t before.

Is this course going to teach him tactics to win me back or change my mind?

No. This course is not about teaching men how to manipulate their partner into coming back or changing their mind. It focuses entirely on personal growth—helping men improve their own emotional health, resilience, and self-awareness. The aim isn’t to save the relationship, but to help men become better versions of themselves. If positive changes in the relationship happen as a result, it’s because of their personal growth, not because they used tactics to “win” you back.

I feel like it’s too late—why should I encourage him to take this course now?

We know how exhausting it is to feel like you’ve reached the end. The difference here is that this course focuses on him, not on you or the relationship. It’s not about trying to save something that’s already broken—it’s about helping him become a better man, whether for himself, for this relationship, or for any future relationships. If there’s still a chance for change, it will come from his personal growth, not from trying to convince you to stay.

How do I know this course won’t just make him a better manipulator?

The course is structured to foster self-awareness, empathy, and emotional maturity. It’s designed to help men take ownership of their own behaviors rather than shift the blame or manipulate their partner. There’s no place for deception or manipulation in this program—it’s about real, lasting personal growth. A man who is emotionally mature and self-aware doesn’t need to manipulate anyone—he becomes a better partner simply because of who he is becoming.

What if he uses this course to try to make me feel like the problem?

This course teaches men to focus entirely on their own behavior, not on controlling or blaming their partner. It encourages self-reflection and accountability, ensuring that men understand the importance of addressing their own issues first. If he tries to shift the blame back onto you, he’s missing the core point of the course—which is to stop deflecting and start growing.

Can this course save our relationship?

The goal of this course isn’t to save the relationship—it’s to help your partner become a healthier, more emotionally mature individual. If the relationship improves, it’s a result of that growth, not the focus. The course will not teach him strategies to win you back or tactics to manipulate the outcome of your relationship. The transformation comes from him becoming a better version of himself, and sometimes, men with improved lives make better partners.