I knew I had a wife problem!
I knew I was being wronged!
I knew I was being disrespected, overlooked, misjudged, unvalued, and unloved.
When we first meet these men, they’re convinced they have specific problems like:
Feeling alone even though in a relationship or in a crowd
An angry, cold, distant wife or partner who doesn’t seem to like them, let alone love them
Not receiving warmth/attention/affection/touch/together time/sex/intimacy
Their wife/partner spending too much time on her phone/with friends/with the kids/etc
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Then one day, often just after a “more trail marathon,” like a vacation, home renovation, or big holiday, our wives say some dreadful words.
“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
“I think I want a divorce.”
“Yes… I *am* having an affair.”
“I can’t give you what you want.”
“I need to find myself.”
Many of these men are in sexless or sexless or sex-starved relationships. They feel a deep lack of far more than sex but of deep, connected emotionally-satisfying intimacy. In fact, that’s usually their chief frustration and complaint.
We help men become the heroes they’ve always longed to be, surrounded by the kind of men they’d long since lost hope could guide them there.
For about twenty years, I couldn’t figure out why I felt alone in crowds, unvalued, unappreciated, unseen, unhappy, and ultimately, unloved. This wasn’t what I signed up for! I constantly wondered, “what the hell happened here?”
I thought my absence of male friends was because other men were all shallow. I felt that good men who could talk about something other than sports, booze, and hobbies were proverbial unicorns in the world. As a result, I struggled to develop close bonds with other men.
I’ve sat with many men lamenting their fathers’ lack of instruction and their shame for not knowing how to do some things. I understand that frustration, not getting a lot of teaching I would have preferred also. However, the instructions my dad couldn’t give me…