Mastering the Art of Leading Yourself and Your Relationships
Empowering men with real stories, proven insights, and actionable strategies to break free from frustration, reclaim their power, and build thriving lives and marriages.
How One Sentence Over Cheeseburgers Ended Limbo In My Marriage
For almost twenty years, I lived as a serf, disappointed that my needs never seemed met and exhausted from the constant asking and angling for more respect, appreciation, validation, love, sex, passion, connection, and free time to myself. “This isn’t fair! This isn’t what partnership was supposed to be about!”
The Missing Ingredient in Most Marriage Rescue Recipes
Many men embrace conditional regard thinking it’s how they can create and enforce good personal boundaries. In fact, the opposite is true. Men with conditional regard for others require things from others that they can’t control.
The Four Keys I Used to Escape My Suffering and Create a Thriving Connected Marriage
Inwardly I was miserable, melancholy, and woefully unhappy, and I had a secret no one knew. My secret? That I spent excessive time fantasizing about my wife dying in her sleep so I could hopefully remarry and live the rest of my life happily ever after.
Yeah, but… at what point does a man say “enough is enough”?!
Many think they’re playing The Hero simply because they’re no longer idle in their story. While taking action is more heroic than living idly in inaction, if a man’s story has a Villain, he’s still The Victim. Guys get pissed when I say that. That, too, is often more victimization.
Why men who say “I’m holding out hope that she’ll change her mind” often end up divorced
Hey brother, if you're reading this as a man experiencing marriage trouble, I want you to know that I'm for you! I'm on your team and want the best for you. That's why I'm sharing these words with you. Words that might sting or pinch a bit, but words that might...
The maples scream, “Oppression”, and the oaks just shake their heads
In my work with men, I have the opportunity to see how a man’s worldview plays out in his life, romantic relationships, family, career, and friendships. Being an 80’s music-loving Rush fan, I sometimes find those songs to speak some transcendent truths that are precisely what I see in the men in front of me.
Ten Characteristics of Men Who Survived a Wife’s Emotional or Physical Affair
These men, refusing to be victims, naturally refuse to wait for someone to rescue them from their victimization. Instead, they possess a “self-rescue” mindset. That means that they refused to wait for their spouse or her affair partner to change course or direction.
No, you (probably) aren’t a Narcissist, but here are the reasons she thinks you are and how to stop it!
I know you're probably not a Narcissist. The problem is your wife, girlfriend, or fiancee might believe you are. There are good reasons they might think this. If a man knows this, with some help and insights, there are ways to stop it from continuing. That's why I...
3 Early Warning Signs a Mans’ Marriage is in Grave Danger
I’m gonna be direct and get right to the point. When men – especially bread-winning fathers aged 35-50 – are experiencing a subtle but very dangerous decline in their relationship health, they display three very specific symptoms of imminent marriage danger.
Hopeless marriage hope for my sons (and brothers)
Sons... brother... I want you to know something in case I die before you encounter it. I’ve spent the week, like most weeks, talking with men hopeless about marriage - men who in many ways remind me a lot of you - just a bit older a bit further down the romantic river...