If parts of this article landed, unsettled you, or put words to something you’ve been feeling but haven’t known how to name, you’re not alone.
I’ve put together a longer, more detailed guide that walks through the dynamics described here with greater care and nuance. It speaks to both men and women, names the fears on each side, and clarifies the difference between growth, secrecy, safety, and self-erasure.
This guide is not a pitch. It’s a resource.
It’s meant to be read slowly, revisited, and shared if it feels helpful. Many people find it clarifying simply to see their experience reflected without being blamed or pressured toward a conclusion.
If you’d like a copy, you’re welcome to reach out and request it.
No obligation. No assumptions about where you’re headed.
Just an open door if you want to keep exploring what a more honest, grounded, and connected way forward might look like.
