Examines how attraction fades when roles blur into control, appeasement, or dependency, and why polarity and desire collapse in otherwise committed relationshi
A woman can’t bring you warmth if your own cabin is cold.
And she won’t trust the fire if it only burns when you want sex.
So build the fire for you.
Tend it because you love who you are in its glow.
Make your life the kind of warmth that welcomes—never pressures.
Not as bait.
But as a home.
Most men say they want intimacy—but few realize how their emotional reactions silently sabotage it. If your marriage feels disconnected or sexless, the problem may not be what you think. Learn how emotional safety—not control—is the key to reigniting desire and deep connection.
What if your longing isn’t the problem—but the path?
In Part 3 of the Unlatching series, we explore the transition from reaching to creating—where true masculine power is forged. This is the journey from emotional hunger to creative age
Most men were weaned from milk but never initiated into manhood. In Part 2, we explore how our obsession with women—and even porn—isn’t about lust, but unprocessed emotional hunger. We dig into why so many men are stuck reaching, how that pressure impacts the women they love, and what it means to finally return to the forest… and remember how to feed ourselves.
“The world was on fire, and no one could save me but you…”
Chris Isaak’s Wicked Game isn’t just a song—it’s a mirror reflecting the deep ache of the wounded masculine heart. The desperate longing. The belief that she is the answer, that she holds the key to salvation. I spent years chasing that illusion, convinced that the right woman could fill the void inside me. But the truth? She was never the source—only a reflection.
This is the journey men must take: out of emotional childhood, through the wilderness of uncertainty, into the solid ground of mature, grounded masculinity. Most men avoid it, choosing instead to repeat the cycle—cling, chase, resent, withdraw. And when she pulls away? He assumes she’s broken, avoidant, or incapable of love. But the real reason she’s distant? She’s exhausted by his need for her to be his emotional home.
If you’re tired of playing the wicked game, this is your call to step into something real.
Jon felt trapped in a sexless marriage, unsure of how to fix what felt irreparable. In this series of raw, unfiltered emails between Jon and his mentor Sven, they dig deep into the emotional struggles, frustrations, and misunderstandings that keep couples stuck in gridlock. Read on to uncover how men like Jon can break free from the pain, reclaim their self-worth, and create the intimacy they’ve been longing for.
Many of these men are in sexless or sexless or sex-starved relationships. They feel a deep lack of far more than sex but of deep, connected emotionally-satisfying intimacy. In fact, that’s usually their chief frustration and complaint.
Inwardly I was miserable, melancholy, and woefully unhappy, and I had a secret no one knew. My secret? That I spent excessive time fantasizing about my wife dying in her sleep so I could hopefully remarry and live the rest of my life happily ever after.
Many think they’re playing The Hero simply because they’re no longer idle in their story. While taking action is more heroic than living idly in inaction, if a man’s story has a Villain, he’s still The Victim. Guys get pissed when I say that. That, too, is often more victimization.
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