Some songs don’t just play in the background of our lives—they haunt us. Johnny Cash’s Hurt is one of them. It’s a song of reckoning, regret, and redemption—one that stopped me in my tracks when I first heard it. At the time, I was restless, disconnected, and tempted to run. But what I learned from Cash’s voice and my own journey changed everything. If you’ve ever felt the pull to escape your life, this article is for you.
I don’t have a perfect marriage, nor am I seeking one. I don’t even believe such a thing exists.
What I have—what I’m continually creating—is a resilient marriage. And I’ve done that by becoming a resilient and confident man.
A marriage without disagreements isn’t a strong marriage—it’s often a fragile one, where real conversations aren’t happening, where one or both people are suppressing themselves just to “keep the peace.” That’s not what I want, and it’s not what we have.
Zelda’s otherness—her different perspectives, thoughts, and emotions—isn’t something I try to manage or control. It’s something I deeply value. It makes my life richer, more expansive. Our differences challenge me in ways that make me stronger, and I see that as an asset, not a liability.
So we don’t avoid disagreements. We work through them. And in over six years, we haven’t had a single fight or argument that has broken our connection.
Not because I’ve unlocked some perfect marriage formula. Not because we never hit tense moments. But because I’ve learned how to lead myself well—and when I do that, I create a relationship where challenges don’t turn into distance, where we don’t get stuck in endless cycles of frustration.
That’s what The Resilient Husband is about. Not a quick fix. Not a set of tactics to “manage” your wife. But a way of becoming the man you were meant to be—so you can lead your marriage with real confidence.
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Then one day, often just after a “more trail marathon,” like a vacation, home renovation, or big holiday, our wives say some dreadful words.
“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
“I think I want a divorce.”
“Yes… I *am* having an affair.”
“I can’t give you what you want.”
“I need to find myself.”
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For about twenty years, I couldn’t figure out why I felt alone in crowds, unvalued, unappreciated, unseen, unhappy, and ultimately, unloved. This wasn’t what I signed up for! I constantly wondered, “what the hell happened here?”
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