Mirror, Mirror On The Wall, Who’s The Avoidant Wife After All?

Mirror, Mirror On The Wall, Who’s The Avoidant Wife After All?

by | Aug 14, 2020 | Avoidance & Attachment, Femininity, Marriage, Marriage & Relationships, Mirroring, Relationship Conflict, Romantic Relationships, Sexless Marriage, Sovereignty, Agency & Leadership, Thought Patterns

Your avoidant wife isn’t a bitch. She’s not…against you, not your enemy, and not your adversary. She’s also not holding out on you or keeping distant from you because of deep childhood wounds. It’s not her daddy issues, a controlling...
Performance-based self-esteem (value, worthiness and significance)

Performance-based self-esteem (value, worthiness and significance)

by | Aug 13, 2020 | Confidence, Empowerment Dynamics, Faith & Spirituality, Shame & Insecurity, Sovereignty, Agency & Leadership, Spirituality Without Shame, Thought Patterns, Value & Significance

Recently, my friend John asked, “What is performance-based self-esteem?”. I am sure he knows inside what it is but recalling his own beginnings in this journey, John recalled how easy it was to not see this pattern in his own life and wanted me to make a...
Why won’t my wife get off her cell phone?

Why won’t my wife get off her cell phone?

by | Aug 12, 2020 | Avoidance & Attachment, Drama Triangle Detox, Emotions & Resiliency, Fear & Anxiety, Marriage, Mirroring, Mission/Life Purpose, Relationship Conflict, Romantic Relationships, Shame & Insecurity, Stuckness, Struggles & Suffering, Thought Patterns

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard this from the mouth a man, I’d at least be able to pay my own cell phone bill without personal cost. Seeing a wife fixated on her cell phone is excruciating for many men, a true source of agony. Why won’t...
Overcoming My Shame Enough To Become Open To Mentoring

Overcoming My Shame Enough To Become Open To Mentoring

by | Aug 11, 2020 | Coaching & Mentoring, Confidence, Emotions & Resiliency, Empowerment Dynamics, Masculinity, Shame & Insecurity, Stuckness, Struggles & Suffering, Thought Patterns, Worldview & Beliefs

I’ve often heard that the toughest part of the mentoring process is the initial reaching out and asking. Oh how I can relate! I can still remember as a newlywed cautiously approaching some older men to ask them if it was normal to not feel very satisfied after...
Too long have you sat in the shadows

Too long have you sat in the shadows

by | Aug 5, 2020 | Coaching & Mentoring, Confidence, Empowerment Dynamics, Mission, Purpose & Legacy, Mission/Life Purpose, Music & Stories, Sovereignty, Agency & Leadership, Stuckness, Struggles & Suffering, Things that move me, Thought Patterns, Value & Significance

You know I’m a sucker for a good story and how they move me. I love encountering epic portraits of truth in story form. As far as themes go, identity is a major component of my passion, mission, and mentoring practice. Naturally then, stories with themes that...