Why She’s Still Cold—Even Though You’re Finally Getting Warmer

Why She’s Still Cold—Even Though You’re Finally Getting Warmer

by | Apr 17, 2025 | Emotional Gridlock, Emotional Immaturity and Reactivity, Loss of Polarity and Desire, Marriage, Relational Leadership, Romantic Relationships, Sex, Shame and Emotional Withdrawal

The Cabin: A Parable for Men in Sexless Marriages or Low/No Intimacy Relationships Picture this. Early in your marriage, you built a cozy heated cabin.You invited your wife in for games, laughter, connection, fun.She felt safe there. Secure. Warm. Sometimes, in that...
The Pain of a Sexless Marriage: A Raw Email Thread Every Man Stuck In Limbo Needs to Read

The Pain of a Sexless Marriage: A Raw Email Thread Every Man Stuck In Limbo Needs to Read

by | Sep 13, 2024 | Emotional Gridlock, Loss of Polarity and Desire, Marriage, Relationship Conflict, Resentment and Suppressed Anger, Romantic Relationships, Sex, Shame and Emotional Withdrawal, Value & Significance

I want to talk to you about something that hits home for a lot of men I work with: navigating a sexless marriage. It’s one of the most gut-wrenching, confusing, and lonely experiences a guy can go through. The pain goes way beyond the physical—there’s the emotional...
Why men who say “I’m holding out hope that she’ll change her mind” often end up divorced

Why men who say “I’m holding out hope that she’ll change her mind” often end up divorced

by | May 9, 2022 | Emotional Gridlock, Emotional Immaturity and Reactivity, Femininity, Marriage, Masculinity, Relational Leadership, Relationship Conflict, Resentment and Suppressed Anger, Romantic Relationships, Sex, Shame and Emotional Withdrawal

Hey brother, if you’re reading this as a man experiencing marriage trouble, I want you to know that I’m for you! I’m on your team and want the best for you.  That’s why I’m sharing these words with you. Words that might sting or...
No, you (probably) aren’t a Narcissist, but here are the reasons she thinks you are and how to stop it!

No, you (probably) aren’t a Narcissist, but here are the reasons she thinks you are and how to stop it!

by | Mar 6, 2022 | Emotional Gridlock, Emotional Immaturity and Reactivity, Marriage, Narcissism, Relationship Conflict, Resentment and Suppressed Anger, Romantic Relationships, Sex & Intimacy, Sexless Marriage, Shame and Emotional Withdrawal, Stuckness, Struggles & Suffering, Thought Patterns, Worldview & Beliefs, YouTube Videos

I know you’re probably not a Narcissist. The problem is your wife, girlfriend, or fiancee might believe you are. There are good reasons they might think this. If a man knows this, with some help and insights, there are ways to stop it from continuing....