There was once a man who lived in a small village, tending the great gate that led to a vast and prosperous land. He had heard stories his whole life—tales of those who had passed through the gate and found abundance, love, peace, and strength beyond what they had ever known.
And so, every morning, he rose early and stood at the gate, waiting.
Waiting for a sign. Waiting for someone to come and tell him it was his time.
He watched the clouds, searching for a symbol in their shapes. He listened to the wind, hoping for a whisper of permission. He studied the flight of birds, believing that if they circled the gate just right, it would mean his journey could begin.
But the signs never came.
One evening, an old traveler passed by and found the man sitting there, shoulders slumped, eyes weary from watching.
“What are you doing here?” the traveler asked.
“I am waiting for the sign that I may enter,” the man replied. “The day the gate opens for me, I will walk through, and my life will finally change.”
The traveler chuckled and pointed to the gate’s heavy iron doors.
“My friend, that gate isn’t locked. It never has been. It only requires one thing to open.”
The man’s eyes widened. “What?”
“You,” the traveler said. “You must decide to push it open.”
The man sat in stunned silence. All these years, he had been waiting for something outside of himself to tell him it was time. But the truth was… it had always been his choice.
How I Lived My Life Waiting for a Sign
I used to be that man.
Not standing at a literal gate, but waking up every morning waiting—waiting for some proof, some external confirmation, that I was on the right path.
I waited for signs that my wife would change before I decided to be the man I wished I were in my marriage.
I waited for business success before I truly believed in myself as a capable man.
I waited for confidence to magically appear before I stopped shrinking and started standing firm.
And all the while, I kept thinking the answer was outside of me—that something in the world needed to shift before I could.
I told myself I was being smart. That I was waiting for the “right time” or the “right opportunity.” But the truth? I was just afraid.
Afraid that if I moved forward and it didn’t work out, I’d prove what I secretly feared: that I wasn’t enough.
It took me years to realize I had been standing at an unlocked gate the entire time.
And when I finally stepped through? Everything changed.
How to Know If This Is You
Maybe you don’t think of yourself as a man who’s waiting. Maybe you tell yourself that you’re just being patient, that you’re waiting for “clarity,” “alignment,” or for circumstances to finally support your next move.
But here’s how you’ll know you’re standing at the gate, waiting instead of walking:
- You feel restless and unfulfilled, like you’re always on the verge of something but never quite arriving.
- You second-guess your choices, worrying about whether now is really the time.
- You keep telling yourself you’ll take action “once things settle down.”
- You spend more time gathering information than acting on it.
- You blame external circumstances—your job, your relationship, the economy, your past—for why you haven’t moved forward.
And if you have a woman in your life, she feels it too.
A woman doesn’t need you to be rich, perfect, or have all the answers.
But she does need to feel that you know where you’re going.
If she senses that you’re waiting, hesitating, or looking to her for permission?
She will begin to resent you for it.
She will test you.
She will push against you.
She will get colder.
Not because she’s cruel.
Not because she wants to break you.
But because she doesn’t want to carry your weight too.
And if she keeps pushing and finds nothing—no mission, no fire, no conviction?
She will pull away.
Not because she wants to.
Because she has to.
If she doesn’t, you’ll never stop waiting to live.
And in any story where the hero refuses the call to adventure, the supporting characters exit the scene.
That moment—when you feel her turning away—is when most men finally wake up.
But by then, they’ve already wasted years waiting.
The Fear That Actually Sets You Free
Every hero’s journey starts with the same challenge: the refusal of the call.
Not because the hero is weak.
Not because he doesn’t want more.
But because the deepest fear isn’t the journey itself.
The deepest fear is that the journey will reveal his worst suspicion—that he isn’t enough.
So, he stays. He waits.
But here’s the brutal irony:
Staying stuck all but guarantees he will feel that way.
Because it’s on the journey—under duress, challenge, and adversity—that a man becomes enough.
Joseph Campbell said it best:
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”
The Hardest Lesson I Had to Learn
When I finally stepped through my own gate, I had to face something brutal:
I had been waiting for permission my entire life.
And worse? I didn’t even realize it.
I had built my life around the idea that:
- Love, success, strength, and freedom were things that came from outside of me.
- There was a future version of me who was finally worthy of those things.
So I spent years chasing both:
- Trying to manipulate the outside world—my job, my wife, my body—to give me what I wanted.
- Trying to improve my ego so I would finally feel worthy of it.
But in the process? I was never fully living.
I was waiting. And waiting. And waiting.
Until I finally asked myself the questions I want to ask you now.
Questions That Changed My Life
If this resonates with you, take a moment and ask yourself:
- What kind of man would I need to be to walk through the gate today—without waiting for a sign?
- What am I telling myself about why I can’t?
- Am I still believing there’s a future version of me who is finally “ready”? Why not now?
- Where did I learn the idea that I need permission to act?
- What would I do today if I already knew I was worthy?
These are the questions I had to ask myself before anything changed.
And I’ll be honest with you—asking them was uncomfortable.
Because once you realize you’ve been the one holding yourself back, there’s no one left to blame.
But there’s also no one left to wait on.
You can just step through.
This Is Why I Built the 30-Day Awakened Purposeful Man Challenge
Because I know what it’s like to hesitate at the gate.
I also know what it’s like to finally walk through it.
And I want that for you.
For 30 days, you’ll stop waiting and start becoming.
- You’ll step through the gate and take action instead of waiting for a sign.
- You’ll reclaim your power and stop looking to others for permission.
- You’ll break through the hesitation, doubt, and fear that have kept you stuck.
This isn’t about consuming more information.
It’s about doing the work—showing up, pushing through resistance, and proving to yourself that you are already worthy of the life you want.
If you’re done waiting and ready to step into purpose, strength, and clarity, this is your moment.
It’s time, brother.
It’s time to walk through the gate.
I believe in you. Now, it’s time for you to believe in yourself.
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