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Announcing My New Book: What to Do When the Aliens Show Up (and Even If They Don’t)
After years of reflection, learning, and personal growth, I’m thrilled to announce the release of my new book, What to Do When the Aliens Show Up (and Even If They Don’t). This isn’t just another book—it’s the culmination of my journey from frustration and fear to...

Why I Always Felt Like I Wasn’t Good Enough—and How I Finally Reclaimed My Confidence
If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough—like no matter how hard you try, you’re still falling short—I understand. I carried that belief for years, a quiet but constant voice telling me I wasn’t worthy of love or success. It wasn’t until my marriage was on the brink that I realized how deeply shame and self-loathing had taken root in my life. But here’s the truth: those feelings are not who you are, and they don’t have to define you. In this post, I’ll share my journey from self-doubt to self-acceptance and offer the first steps you can take to reclaim your confidence.

How I Almost Lost My Marriage Despite Being “The Smartest Guy in the Room”
I’ve always been the guy who could step into a mess, see the problem, and fix it. But at home, my analytical skills only made things worse. My wife didn’t need me to diagnose her feelings—she needed me to see them. Here’s how I almost lost my marriage and the steps I took to save it.

Trapped and Frustrated: How I Broke Free From the Cycle Destroying My Marriage
Six years ago, I felt completely stuck in my marriage—blamed, frustrated, and wondering if we’d make it. Here’s the journey that changed everything, and how you can break free too.

The Pain of a Sexless Marriage: A Raw Email Thread Every Man Stuck In Limbo Needs to Read
Jon felt trapped in a sexless marriage, unsure of how to fix what felt irreparable. In this series of raw, unfiltered emails between Jon and his mentor Sven, they dig deep into the emotional struggles, frustrations, and misunderstandings that keep couples stuck in gridlock. Read on to uncover how men like Jon can break free from the pain, reclaim their self-worth, and create the intimacy they’ve been longing for.

From Suspicion to Security: Transforming The Fear Of A Wife’s Emotional Affair into Emotional Maturity and Strength
I get emails like this all the time, and I want to talk to you about the challenges men face when they suspect their partner might be having an emotional affair. It’s a situation filled with uncertainty, insecurity, and a desperate need for clarity and growth. Read on to understand the impact of emotional affairs, the importance of addressing insecurity, and how to transform pain into personal growth and emotional maturity.

Discover the Path to a Stronger, More Connected Marriage with “From Resentment to Reconnection”
Are you trapped in a cycle of resentment and frustration in your marriage? Do you feel misunderstood, disconnected, and longing for a deeper, more meaningful relationship with your spouse? If you’re nodding in agreement, I have something transformative to share with you.

Focus ≠ Wisdom & Feelings ≠ Reality
I knew I had a wife problem!
I knew I was being wronged!
I knew I was being disrespected, overlooked, misjudged, unvalued, and unloved.

Connection: Why few find it, most break it, and how to begin restoring it
When we first meet these men, they’re convinced they have specific problems like:
Being unappreciated/disrespected/overlooked
Feeling alone even though in a relationship or in a crowd
An angry, cold, distant wife or partner who doesn’t seem to like them, let alone love them
Not receiving warmth/attention/affection/touch/together time/sex/intimacy
Their wife/partner spending too much time on her phone/with friends/with the kids/etc

How I Overcame a Lifetime of Anxiety and Saved My Marriage in the Process
Hey brother, I appreciated your recent question and comments about feeling anxious in life and marriage. You mentioned being anxious and fearful all the time but unable to capture any of it. I relate! Especially when you described those anxious thoughts as "ping-pong...
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