Masculinity is about strength rooted in virtue, not appearance. Like a sword planted firmly in stone, true manhood is defined by courage, integrity, and the resolve to protect and create.
Then one day, often just after a “more trail marathon,” like a vacation, home renovation, or big holiday, our wives say some dreadful words.
“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
“I think I want a divorce.”
“Yes… I *am* having an affair.”
“I can’t give you what you want.”
“I need to find myself.”
We help men become the heroes they’ve always longed to be, surrounded by the kind of men they’d long since lost hope could guide them there.
For about twenty years, I couldn’t figure out why I felt alone in crowds, unvalued, unappreciated, unseen, unhappy, and ultimately, unloved. This wasn’t what I signed up for! I constantly wondered, “what the hell happened here?”
I thought my absence of male friends was because other men were all shallow. I felt that good men who could talk about something other than sports, booze, and hobbies were proverbial unicorns in the world. As a result, I struggled to develop close bonds with other men.
I’ve sat with many men lamenting their fathers’ lack of instruction and their shame for not knowing how to do some things. I understand that frustration, not getting a lot of teaching I would have preferred also. However, the instructions my dad couldn’t give me…
Many think they’re playing The Hero simply because they’re no longer idle in their story. While taking action is more heroic than living idly in inaction, if a man’s story has a Villain, he’s still The Victim. Guys get pissed when I say that. That, too, is often more victimization.
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In my work with men, I have the opportunity to see how a man’s worldview plays out in his life, romantic relationships, family, career, and friendships. Being an 80’s music-loving Rush fan, I sometimes find those songs to speak some transcendent truths that are precisely what I see in the men in front of me.
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Many men are stuck in a cycle of blame, apology, and emotional gridlock. I lived there for years—until I realized what she was really asking for all along.
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